Forgiveness a Way of Life

No one is perfect, we all make mistakes, sometimes we have no control over what happen; however we have control over what happen with our minds, and can choose what goes and what becomes a part of our lives.  Taking control means making a conscious decision to do something.

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a decision you make that will benefit you and not the other person who may have done you wrong.  It’s a decision you make to let go of your resentment and thoughts of revenge.  The bible talks about forgiving other as we would want others to forgive us.  Studies have shown that forgiveness is essential to your health and state of mind.

Forgiveness is not denying or minimizing the wrong that was done to you.  It is not telling the responsible party that it’s OK not to take responsible for their actions.  Forgiveness is allowing your-self to have peace and move on to live a healthy and productive life.  

  

Benefits of forgiving someone

·         Letting go of bitterness

·         Healthier relationships

·         Greater compassion

·         Less stress and anxiety

Holding on to a grudge is easy to do because it makes you feel as if you are in control and gives you a reason to keep plotting your revenge, but does not challenge who you really are.  When you have been hurt by someone that you truly loved and trusted it brings out the worst in you, and you find it difficult to trust, but easy to be resentful.

Holding on to a grudge will not make you a better person, so try and stay away form

•          Vengeance filled with hostility
•          Grudges filled with resentment
•          Bitterness from negativity

Reaching the state of forgiveness?

Forgiveness is a process that will not happen over-night. It takes commitment and your wiliness to change.  Think about how you felt the last time you forgave someone and what it did for you emotionally. 

•         You have to choose to forgive the person that offended you.
•        When you forgive someone you take back the power that they had over you.
•        You no longer spend your time thinking of how to get revenge.
•        You will no longer see yourself as a victim.

Holding   on to un-forgiveness could be a high price to pay, because it can lead to bitterness and anger which may consumer your relationships with your family and friends.  You could also become depressed or anxious which may leave you having to take medication.   So choose to forgive and live a stress free and happy life.