Steps to Over-coming Loneliness

Are you living a lonely life? 

We experience loneliness for a number of reasons, such as isolation or social awkwardness.  Everyone experience loneliness at some point in their live; but fortunately for us, there are a number of ways to overcome loneliness.

Loneliness is many-sided and often involves unpleasant emotional response to isolation or lack of companionship.  Loneliness can be felt even when you are surrounded by people who love you.  The cause of loneliness varies which could include social, mental, emotional, and spiritual factors.  Research has shown that loneliness is widely prevalent throughout society among people in marriages, relationships, families and successful careers.

Understand that we all get lonely

Experiencing loneliness does not mean there is something wrong with you.  We are all prone to loneliness during major life transitions whether it’s losing something or someone.  We will need to explore new alternatives and things to help us during this period.

Know the difference between loneliness and solitude

Loneliness is when you are not happy to be alone, and solitude is when you are happy to be alone.  If you are someone who is happy to be alone then you may be experiencing solitude and need to get professional help. 

Over-coming Loneliness

Overcoming the Fear of Failure

How would you answer this question; “are you afraid of failure?” 

Did you know that your fear of failure can keep you from being successful in life? Fear can stop you from experiencing success and freedom financially and physically in your life; it can keep you in a place that you don’t want to be and don’t know how to get out of.

  Fear of Failure

Are you afraid that if you start something it would fail? Do you think that you are one of those people who fail at everything you go after, and that you don’t deserve to be success in life?  It’s time to take control of your fear of failure.  Start believing that all things are possible, you just need to apply yourself, and failure is an option you don’t have to choose.

Fear of Change

Do you think that change will bring failure?  I personal don’t like change because it takes me out of my comfort zone.  But I am not afraid of changes because it’s a part of our everyday life.  We can’t get away from change no matter how hard we try, so embrace it and let it work for you it does not have to be a failure; it can be your platform to success.

Fear of Being Judged or Rejected

Fear can control you only if you allow it to; it has no power except for the power you give it.  Every successful individual you can think of has had been judged and rejected yet they choose to persevere and not let fear of failure conquer, or intimidate them. 

Knowing When To Say No

Saying No is not always easy to do, it sometimes makes you feel bad and seems like a mean persons.  However once in a while you will find yourself in a situation that goes beyond the limits and you simple have to say “No”.  It is not easy to say no to your friends or people you love and care about.

Pleasing Other People

There are people in your life who every once in a while you may find it hard to say No to because you want to please them.  Pleasing others is not always in your interest, so you need to weight your options.  If you are in a business negation you need to use wisdom but stand up for what you believe and what’s in your best interest.  Take control of your life and stand up for yourself and say no when necessary, don’t always try to please others.

Afraid of Losing Friendship

I have lost relationships because I have said “No”.  Don’t worry about losing friends, set limits and stick to your principles.  If you have a friend you can’t say “No” to then this friendship is not worth keeping.  People come into our lives for a reason and a season so when the time comes for them to go, let them go.

What Makes You Happy?

You know that song, years ago “Don’t Worry be Happy”, it’s a good song because worrying will not change your situation or solve your problem.  Being happy is not going to change your situation long term either, because happiness is not fixed once and for all.   

One definition of happiness is a “mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.” Happiness does not have a fixed, precise meaning, so what makes me happy may not make you happy.

 Material things don’t necessarily bring you happiness, because happiness does not come from the outside but from within.   You can be happy when you get the job you wanted or the relationship you desired, but what happens when the warm and fuzzy feelings wears off?

5 Steps to Being Happy

• Be kind to others
• Forgive yourself first then others
• Express gratitude
• Don’t over-think things
• Practice religion/spirituality

Happiness is a in the moment feeling, so we say things like I will be happy when…….which mean it only when you have achieve this goal or thing are you going to be happy.  Take a step of faith and get out of your comfort zone, and be happy where you are in your life.

Setting A Goal Achieving Success

We all want to be successful at whatever we do; but what is success?  Success is “Having achieved or gained much especially wealth, fame, or power.”  Most people don’t understand success because they don’t know what they want, and they don’t have much. 

Most of us have problem achieving our goals or being successful simple because we don’t set goals.  Achieving a goal is not as easy as just thinking or writing the plan down, you will have to take action and be persistence to accomplish you goal.

3 Steps to achieving your goals

1.      Be clear about your goal
2.     Have a plan on how to achieve it
3.        It needs to realistic (you have to believe it’s possible for you to achieve)

Taking action is the life of achieving your goal.  Start by documenting your goal in details, set smaller goals or milestones which will assist you in reaching your final goal.  Researching your goal will give you information on the best way to achieve your goal and become successful.

Now that your goal is on paper and you have done your homework, you will be more motivated to achieve your goal.  Although some people deal with motivation in a negative manner, like over doing things, being impatient or giving up too quickly because you are dis-satisfied with the progress. 

5 Steps to Making a Successful Budget

Making a monthly budget will help you take control of your income and expenses. It’s simple addition and subtraction so if you have no knowledge of accounting don’t worry, this is very easy and it’s the first step to taking control of your finance.

Step 1: Gather all your bills and income statement:

This includes bank statements (checking and saving accounts), recent utility bills,   and information relating to your income or expenses. 

Step 2: List (add up) all your source of income:

It would be easy to do this on a spread-sheet, however, if you don’t know how to             use excel, that’s OK, it can be done on a sheet of paper.  If you are self-employed or have any other source of income you should record these also. Add all pay-check received for the month as one, and record the total.

Step 3: List your monthly expenses:

Make a list of all your expected expenses and what you plan on spending over the course of the month.  List the fix expenses, which include rent or mortgage payment, insurance (life, auto, or health) groceries, entertainment, utilities, loans, and basically everything you spend money on.

I Regret Not Being......

We all have an appointment with death, so don't spend your life regretting the things you wanted to do but don't have the courage to do.  As of this moment take control and rethink how you live your life. What you would like to accomplish while you have the strength and ability to do so, and where you go from here?

However if you choose to live your life in regret you will always be asking yourself, what if?

What if your doctor told you that you have three months to live?  Would you start adding up the all the regrets you have for things you did or did not do?  Or would you evaluate your life and make the changes that would help you reach your goal, whatever it is.     

Here are “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying” by Bronnie Ware I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”

• I wish I didn't work so hare”
• I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings”    
• I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends”
• I wish that I had let myself be happier”

 Most of us don’t like changes or starting over, but life is always changing so we need to deal with it.  We always have choices, so take control of how you live your life honestly, and consciously to be who you really are, and don't pretend to be someone else, because in the end you will regret not being you.